Thursday, October 1, 2009

I didn't think you'd actually do it!!"

So I must post the reaction from the boys as they discovered a perfectly clean room

At their first discovery of the clean room, they were happy! And began thanking me for cleaning their room... of course they never finished that thank-you since Jameson realized mid sentence that his remote control car was missing.. A few seconds later he realized the buckets were missing.
He fired off the question.. "Where are my toys?" My response was " Garbage." He then reminded me that HE PAID for his remote control car by himself! This simply got a shrug from me.
Ethan Darted in once.. said nothing....turned back around and ran back in his room and fired off a demanding question of " Where are my bakugons??" I simply replied "in the garbage".
He huffed in anger & left the room... came back in looked around and asked about another one of his favorites..only to get the same reply.
Jameson realizing what really happened... started to get upset and cry.
Ethan was just annoyed by my actions and told me that he was going to clean it today. He was just mad but not distraught.
I just shrugged and let it ALL SINK IN. And then asked them to go get their chores done.
Jameson started searching the house for where the toys could have possibly gone too. He looked in the laundry room. the Garage. the storage shed.. and the garbage can. ( I told them I used the neighbors.) He seemed to have accepted the fact and sulked off to do chores.
Ethan was angry and kept saying " I was going to do it today mom!" I simply told him he was a day too late.

A few minutes later I found Jameson hiding in the laundry room bawling. I said to come and talk to me about it..
His first comment was-" You threw away my favorite toys. and now I don't have any!!!"
my reply/ reminder was with a question -" I asked you for how many days to clean your room? " and reminded him exactly how many days that was. I then asked him what I told him I would do if he didn't get it done.
He replies" you said you'd throw them away..... But, I didn't think you'd actually do it!!!!
after a small discussion not even he could argue that he was warned and given plenty of chances to get the job done, and even agreed with me that this was his own fault. Still upset he accepted the fate of his toys and sulked off to do his chores. Not at all happy.

Ethan I suspected would have been more upset of his missing toys..But he was just pissed. When Paul got home I told him what I'd done..shortly after Ethan came up and Paul asked what happened to his room.. Ethan glared at me.. and said "Mom threw my toys in the garbage". When I reminded him why I did that. He just shrugged. "You are going to have to buy me toys mom".
When I let him know that was NOT going to happen.. He told that he was going to clean his room today, and now I OWE him new toys. ( this was all said with a LOT of hostility in his voice.) I let him know that I owe him nothing. and that is exactly what he is going to get. Till he could do what he was s'posed to WHEN he's s'pose to do it. He just shrugged and said " Fine, I'll just buy new toys with my money." I'm not too worried about that.. since he has no money. And refuses to do extra chores to get the money. But yes, he's definitely does not see this as his problem . . . but mine. I'm hoping a few days will help break this boy down and he'll realize just what he lost.

Now, I must admit, With Jameson I did feel kinda bad for causing emotional damage.....But I'm hoping it will be for the greater good.. If not then I guess I can start a savings account for him and look up a good therapist for when he is older.

I'm deciding that they can earn back their toys here maybe in a week or two.. But if they can't request a toy by name... It's gone! I also imagine Jameson will get all his favorite's back before Ethan earns one. Since Ethan clearly thinks I'm being nothing short of ridiculous.
But that's fine.. the less toys the better. Right now I'm enjoying a clean room.

8 comments:

The Byington's said...

That is so funny! I've said that a couple times to Cole, that if he doesn't do something it goes in the garbage. But I've never had to go actually throw anything away yet. (of course he's younger than your boys, so maybe with time, I may need to) What a great teaching tool though! At least now they know you mean business!

Amy Johnson said...

What a strong willed little boy that Ethan is! Geez! Hmmm...I wonder where he gets that from? :) PS....I keep hoping to find pics of your cute pregnant belly on your blog! Please!!!!!

Tami said...

I've been wondering about their reactions. I sat here chuckling to myself as I read. Good for you for sticking to your guns. Sounds like Jameson learned something valuable. And you get to enjoy a clean house until they earn back their belongins. I have to wonder...did Ethan just figure he's get new toys if the old ones disappeared? It cracks me up when my kids tell me I have to buy them new stuff when I get rid of stuff because they didn't take care of it.

Oh! So where did you hide all the toys? You must have a great spot, since Jameson searched everywhere and found nothing.

Livia said...

Oh girl, I was wondering how you are doing. I think I just have to come visit your blog more often.

You are sure a strong mama and I think your boys will learn from this experience.

john-n-jess blomstedt said...

Ok, so I am totally a fan of your blogging! Consider me a new follower!I found your blogspot through facebook.You are so inspiring. I'm totally stealing that kids room idea. LOVE IT!!!!! And I didn't even know that you were pregnant!? Talk about being out of touch! Our blog is blomstedtbunch@blogspot.com. See you at church!

Irish Cream said...

Way to stick to your guns! That is super tough- tears are harder to deal with than hostility. I am sure that Jameson will recover, and he'll realize there are serious consequences for lack of action.

I miss you! I'd love to have you over to sew, but it's still a sick house for now. Hopefully we'll get these babies all well and then we'll have some fun!

Aneesa Bee said...

Ha ha stacey! We have done that routine at least twice a year. After learning that I DO mean business, my kids are finally motivated when I tell them that "Gunny Bag" is going to help me pick up their toys. We also implemented a toy rotation schedule--so I'd get out three toys (e.g. trains, rescue heroes, costumes) and then on a given Saturday, they could clean up really well and then switch if they wanted to. That has worked really well! Good to see that you're doing an awesome job!

Melissa Hernandez said...

that is too funny! Ur a good mom! So where is the perfect hididng spot?