Friday, September 25, 2009

What we could mean when we say "Or Else!"

So the never ending story.. which I'm pretty sure this goes for ALL house holds....
Is getting the kids to Clean their rooms!

I have absolutely no problem kids making a mess while playing..and usually by the looks of it.. they had lots of fun. What I do have a problem with as soon as the fun is all done and I mention the dread words of "clean up". All the sudden they become deaf. Incapable of picking up a single toy.And whiny. followed by one or more ..or all of the phrases: " I can't do it!"... "I didn't do it".... "It's too hard.".... "I'm too tired"...."so & so isn't helping!!"

Now I have been a mother long enough to know to expect these exact responses. As I have come to expect my request being met with great resistance. It's not shocking. I also know a 20 min job will most likely turn into a 4 hour and counting job, and that is IF I stay and enforce my request. I also know that if I walk away after I request said job... It will more then likely NOT even get close to getting started. May I add that I threaten...alot.. most the time empty threats.. but threats non the less. So why was this job any different?
Well it started about a week ago.. ( yes, I said a WEEK ago!!) The boys played and when my boys play.. they dump...I told them they would need to clean it up right after school the next day. I knew that this mess would take a long ...long time.. SO I.. being the nice mom that I am did their regular chores, so all they would have to do is their room.... well, they started....I went to check it only to find and another bucket of toys were dumped in the mist of their "play time".. I yell.. threaten and leave them to start.. again. Repeat this a few more times and we are still in beginning phase.
Next day same thing. Except this time Ethan Left a note on his closed bedroom door that said." NO more chores FOREVER!" Yeah right buddy... nice try.
a few days were busy enough that I didn't even attempt for them to try.. But warned them in needed to be done. Still nothing.
So ...after sending them down AGAIN to clean their room. And after a few frustrations of finding them in front of the T.V... Building another Robot or just messing around in general..... I warned that If I asked again we'll do this clean up VIA garbage bag... Ethan who meets me with the most resistance when it comes to any type of cleaning ... Told me to "go ahead".
I warned him that EVERY TOY including his fav's would hit the garbage.. He told me that was fine... Jameson just ROLLED his eyes at me.. he too attempting to call my bluff..
So, Last night I gave them a last chance clean up in order to save their toys. They didn't even look scared. Nor did they attempt to even touch it.
Apparently my boys are unaware of who they're really dealing with. Nor do they realize what I am perfectly capable of. And/or how mean and heartless I really am. tsk.. tsk..tsk.
And since my youngest son attempted to call my bluff...... I decided to make good on my threat.
Someday... they just might learn.

NO toys. not one.
I did leave the books, since I hear they we as parents are to encourage our kids to read daily. But if that becomes a problem I'll take care of that as well.

As far as they know I chucked them all in the garbage.......

Okay, I didn't really chuck them, do you know how much money I have spent on all those toys???
But they are in permanent storage.. I may let them earn a toy back one by one. Haven't decided how or when yet.

Course I don't know who really won that round... sure their toys are gone.. But I cleaned up the entire room which really sucked quite frankly... But since my efforts were cleaver and come with a lesson.. Let's just say I did.

Lesson: Don't ever attempt to call a bluff on yo' momma!

4 comments:

Ryan said...

I have done it a couple of different ways as well, I have a actually stood there and had the kids throw (and I mean throw) the toys in the garbage. Or I have gone in like a tornado and cleaned alongside them, anything they could put up was saved, otherwise DI. It hasn't been pretty. Fear may not be the "right" way, but sometimes I just want results. Good luck with it all.

Tami said...

I love this post! I have been there so many times. You're right, the begging, pleading, and threatenings don't work. Sometimes drastic measures have to be taken. I wanna know about their reactions.

p.s. I love that you have hardwood in their bedroom.

Katie said...

I am so proud of you! I love it! I just don't have anywhere to hide all the toys like you do. Well I am curious to hear how they took it when they came home.

Amy Johnson said...

I think I have a Bernstein Bears book that demonstrates that exact story! So funny! My mom just always cleaned up my toys for me. :) PS...I'm surprised your kids don't realize just how stubborn you are yet? Or is it just that you have produced someone with your equal ability to be stubborn?